The Messiah or Your Pride!
The Trappist monk and well read author Thomas Merton, elucidates the concept of original sin or human ontology with remarkable clarity. He articulates that sin should not be perceived merely as a moral choice; instead, it is inherent to our existence, our ontology. Human beings lean toward rebellion, a defiance against the love our Creator, Yahweh, extended to us. We inherently possess traits of greed, selfishness, and pride. Consequently, humanity faces a significant challenge that requires our attention.
In this rather common familial dynamic, the scapegoat takes on the responsibility for the character flaws of other members somewhat unconsciously. This enables the narcissistic family to project a façade of functionality and relational harmony to external observers. However, beneath this veneer lies emotional turmoil and the façade of pride that dictate their identities, resulting in persistent personal destruction. The scapegoated individual is a proxy for the family's transgressions, encapsulating their collective issues. Frequently, without conscious awareness, family members may endeavor to undermine the credibility of the truth-teller—attacking their reputation and inflicting emotional, physical, and spiritual trauma. Although they may not genuinely intend to cause injury, they perceive an obligation to navigate their troubled existence. Not properly acknowledging their deficiencies, they characterize their realities as burdensome and unattractive. Consequently, the scapegoat becomes indispensable to a dysfunctional, narcissistic family—a sacrificial entity that carries the weight of their guilt and shame. This dynamic of gaslighting the truth-teller, who often articulates the problematic truths, is more pragmatic for a disjointed family unit.
The message of the Gospel to humanity is unequivocal: we face a fundamental issue concerning our ontology, and our Messiah offers a solution to aid us in the pursuit of holiness, which reflects that of our Heavenly Father. This encapsulates the essence of the Gospel. Our Messiah entered the world as a child, heralded by the Prophets seven centuries earlier, to address the challenges that have afflicted humankind since the expulsion of Adam and Eve from the Garden. Therefore, when a family unjustly targets an innocent individual—often the one who embodies truth—by projecting their unacknowledged personal flaws, it exemplifies a counterproductive approach to confronting one's imperfections, sins, and the ontological deficiencies referred to as the seven deadly sins in the Epistles of Paul.
Many of us are beginning to understand this! We tend to be autistic, empathetic, and intuitive. We notice qualities in you that you may not see in yourself. It's time for you to reflect! The arrival of Messiah Jesus has revealed a way to break free from your suffering and despair.
Do not seek a scapegoat for sacrifice when confronted by the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Avoid the pursuit of an individual to condemn unjustly. The Father has granted us the Holy Spirit to provide conviction, guidance, and solace. Furthermore, He has designated His "chosen ones" to lead you and assist in overcoming the generational curse affecting your family. The concept of a "scapegoat" was introduced by Christ to confer blessings upon you; Yeshua, the Messiah, is presented as the propitiation for your sinful nature. Understanding the significant distinction in this context and comprehending this distinction is paramount.
I have extensively studied the phenomenon of narcissism, particularly narcissistic families that can inflict damage upon a family member or spouse, often to manifest their pride and avarice. This behavior includes gaslighting the individual who speaks the truth, an act aimed at alleviating their feelings of shame and guilt, which can lead to devastating outcomes such as suicide or profound moral degradation. These individuals maintain a sense of justification for their actions while remaining tethered to their ontology, pride, and greed. It is essential to recognize that your current strategy is ultimately ineffective. You have not attained any meaningful benefit from these actions. At the same time, you may believe you present yourself favorably, but you are not deceiving many observers.
This journey commenced several years ago when I sought clarity for my well-being. As the designated scapegoat, I frequently felt constrained by my lack of knowledge and confusion. After enduring prolonged periods of gaslighting, combined with fervent prayers for wisdom and understanding, alongside tears, substance abuse, and maladaptive coping mechanisms to alleviate my emotional distress, I perceive that I am finally making progress. I now grasp the challenges I encounter, which signify the arrival of our anticipated Messiah. He embodies the singular solution to addressing one's existence and ontology without projecting burdens onto the familial scapegoat. Jesus serves as the ultimate scapegoat for one's salvation; this constitutes His promise.
I assert that there exists substantial evidence indicating that well-intentioned Christians have not sufficiently addressed their ontological issue through God's word, which offers redemption for our sins—an ontological dilemma that many individuals have yet to acknowledge. Based on my extensive observations, it appears that numerous so-called "Christian” families often designate a scapegoated individual. They have neglected to confront the authentic gospel message transmitted through generations, which provides a solution to their pride. Instead of confessing and repenting for their ontological, sinful inclinations, they scapegoat a family member. I am aware of instances involving family scapegoats who, due to the gaslighting they have endured over the years, have tragically resorted to taking their own lives.
CONCLUSION
As a brutal race that was unleashed on the planet Earth, we are desperately in need of a Messiah. We need forgiveness for our sinful nature (ontology) and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to aid our transformation and renew our minds and hearts. The term “Salvation," as defined in the Bible, has represented our struggle for centuries. However, our pride remains the core challenge we must face. Our ontology and the seven deadly sins characterizing our condition continue to bind us.
